God will make a way when there seems to be no way.

You’ve put up with so many outbursts, so much crying and shouting. It’s breaking your heart to see your daughter so upset - which is really upsetting you - but you just don’t know what to do. Everything you’ve tried has not helped.

Emotional coaching is when you, as the parent, take time to try to see things from your child’s perspective, and help the child to feel understood, validated and their feelings respected.

In emotional coaching with a life coach, like myself, the parent and the child talk with the coach about emotions, and help the child to begin learning emotional regulation.

We validate what the child is feeling and that feelings are normal.

We don’t dig into therapy type talking, but instead learn together what is happening and come up with strategies together to regulate emotions.

Does emotional coaching work?

The short answer is YES!

For the long answer, let’s go through some important points from ParentingScience.com to see what’s what:

  • “Of course, emotion coaching isn’t a magic cure-all for every problem. Some kids have troubles that require more than emotion coaching to remedy (Dunsmore et al 2016).

  • Children who are coached have fewer emotional and behavior problems, including problems with anger, anxiety, and acting out (Hurrell et al 2017; Dumcombe et al 2014; Short et al 2010; Gottman et al 1996).

  • They also tend to develop better social skills and peer relationships (Denham et al 1997; Gottman et al 1996).

  • If you take children who have behavior problems, and train their parents to act as better emotion coaches, the kids tend to improve (Duncombe et al 2016; Havighurst et al 2013).

  • Post-intervention, parents showed more emotional sensitivity and good humor, and their kids responded to frustrating events with greater persistence and enthusiasm (Loop and Roskam 2016).

  • Some behavior isn't acceptable, and we need to make that clear (once your child has calmed down enough to listen, be ready to talk with your child about what he or she is feeling). But we should also make it clear that we acknowledge and accept our children's emotions (Gottman et al 1996).”

Emotion coaching: Helping kids cope with negative feelings, https://www.parentingscience.com/emotion-coaching.html and "Tuning into Kids": reducing young children's behavior problems using an emotion coaching parenting program, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22820873/

Research this more.

Emotion coaching: Helping kids cope with negative feelings, https://www.parentingscience.com/emotion-coaching.html, and "Tuning into Kids": reducing young children's behavior problems using an emotion coaching parenting program, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22820873/, and Intervening to shape children's emotion regulation: A review of emotion socialization parenting programs for young children, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31961186/, and Parental emotion and emotion regulation: A critical target of study for research and intervention to promote child emotion socialization, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32077713/, and Maternal socialization of child emotion and adolescent adjustment: Indirect effects through emotion regulation, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32077723/.

Hi, I’m Lynda.

Hi, I’m Lynda Wright, and throughout my pre-teen, teen and early-adulthood I struggled with emotional regulation. I had type 1 diabetes, so for years people thought it was physical, then experts thought it was psychological. It turned out that I had undiagnosed CPTSD, poor personal boundaries, and celiac disease that was leaving me extremely malnourished for two decades. So it was both physical and psychological. But, this was only discovered when I was 26 years old and 32 years old. The result was that I had many, many years of trying to learn about emotional regulation to try to help myself. I went to many medical specialists, had countless medical procedures from 14 iron-transfusions, to CT-scans, to an endoscope camera put down into my digestive tract to try figure it all out. And lots of therapy to try to help me.

The result is that I studied A LOT - about trauma, childhood trauma, emotions, emotional regulation, and how this affects our brains, bodies and behavior.

I’ve spent the past 15+ years learning how to help women and girls break free from the results of big and small jolts in life! Just a few examples of this include - I’ve studied and served as a rape trauma counselor with a crisis center and the police. I’ve done numerous basic counseling courses. I’ve worked full-time at a crisis center. And volunteered and lived in a safe house with trauma victims.

Now I help women with developing and learning what I’ve found makes the most difference.

Building strong boundaries.

Developing personalised emotional regulation strategies.

And filling in the gaps that we’ve lost because of what we’ve gone through - which often begins at “Who Am I? What Do I Want?”

Emotion Coaching for Moms and Daughters.

Emotional coaching can enormously help you and your daughter navigate your emotions.

This is an opportunity to explore what emotions are in a safe, neutral environment with Mom, Daughter and myself, the Life Coach.

Coaching with me helps you and your daughter find clarity, boundaries, learn what emotions are, and what emotional regulation is all about. Step-by-step my coaching guides you, as the Mom, to communicate with your daughter and together find real solutions so that your daughter can feel capable of regulating her emotions!

We’re going to address:

  • Emotions (how to accept, manage and calm them)

  • Asking for help (it’s so important that we validate that emotions are normal, perfectly okay and that we can ask for help with our emotions)

  • Boundaries (how to set them and maintain them)

  • And what your daughter can do to regulate her own emotions (no more waiting for something or someone else to help - emotional regulation is empowering!)

What we won’t do is focus on your or your daughters trauma and deep emotional issues.

Processing that is what therapy is for.

If we find that either you or your daughter are struggling with daily functioning, your emotions are escalating, or we encounter trauma or deep emotional issues, we will pause. Under these circumstances I will only continue working with you and your daughter if it is in conjunction with a professional therapist.

You and your daughter will:

  • Learn to manage your thoughts and feelings so your inner critic doesn’t run the show, and so you don’t bottle up emotions until they explode (both vital for better relationships!).

  • Give yourselves permission to ask for help with your emotions when needed. This is an emotional process, and while we won’t focus on your pain (we focus on solutions and plans), you may have some teary-eyed ‘aha’ moments.

  • Communicate with each other about what boundaries are, and how to build healthy ones for your selves and with your friends and family.

  • Figure out some real plans for what to say and what to do when emotions rise so your daughter can begin to intentionally regulate her emotions on her own. This is a skill we all learn over time, so there are no magic formulas. All improvement is celebrated and having emotions is normal and healthy.

The Results In My Life...

Today, I’m kind to myself. I go to sleep feeling loved (yes, even love for myself!) and wake up feeling enthusiastic for my journey through the ups and the downs of the day. I’ve learnt to control my thoughts and choose what supports me. I’ve learnt how to say goodbye to my emotional ups and downs of irritation, frustration, anger, bitterness, resentment, unforgiveness and jealousy. When I see myself in the mirror or think of myself, I really love who I am.

In our 4 weeks of one-on-on work together, you’ll get:

  • A detailed “getting to know you” form to fill out before our first call, so we can hit the ground running

  • 4, hour-long 1:1 calls with me (spread out for optimal integration, so you have time to practice what you learn with support) - valued at R2,800 ($200)

  • WhatsApp support between calls for the 4 weeks (up to 30 minutes of text support per week!) - valued at R1,120 ($80)

  • PLUS! Bonus 1:1 call with me 1 month after you finish your 4th call to reinforce revelations, discuss your progress and obstacles, plus give you accountability for the path of helping your daughter - valued at R700 ($50)

Total time commitment from you: 2 hours per week with weekly action steps.

Total value: R4,620 ($330)

PRICE: R1,500 (only $100)

or R400pm ($35pm) x 4 month payment plan!

Yes!!!

I’m ready to learn about emotions.

Let’s chat!

p.s. you’ll get asked to prove you are human when you click

This is a good fit for you, if:

  • You and your daughter aren’t in a current crisis or mental health crisis.

  • You’ve done some therapy or counseling stuff in your life.

  • You want a long-term solution and you’re prepared to work to get it.

  • You’re willing to make coaching calls a priority in your life.

You might not be ready, if:

  • You’ve never done any therapy or counseling.

  • You’re or your daughter are currently in a crisis or mental health crisis.

  • You want a quick-fix or someone who can fix you and or your daughter.

  • You aren’t ready to look at the parts of yourself that make you feel uncomfortable.

Frequently Asked Questions.

Why the holly-heck is it so cheap?

Because I live and work from Cape Town, South Africa - so it’s possible to offer this price!

Being affordable is very important to me. When I was in my early thirties I tried to hire a life coach and just could not find one that was even remotely affordable and therapy didn’t help me figure out the little things like boundary-setting, how to be content, how to calm my sometimes over-the-top emotions, or how to deal with the little challenges in life.

Can this really help my daughter and I?

Because I’ve helped myself learn to build boundaries and regulate chaotic emotions that began when I was a very young child - yes, this will help! And I’ve helped lots of other women (and kids).

Throughout my pre-teen, teen and early-adulthood I struggled with emotional regulation. I had type 1 diabetes, so for years people thought it was physical, then experts thought it was psychological. It turned out that I had undiagnosed CPTSD, poor personal boundaries, and celiac disease that was leaving me extremely malnourished for two decades. So it was both physical and psychological. But, this was only discovered when I was 26 years old and 32 years old. The result was that I had many, many years of trying to learn about emotional regulation to try to help myself. I went to many medical specialists, had countless medical procedures from 14 iron-transfusions, to CT-scans, to an endoscope camera put down into my digestive tract to try figure it all out. And lots of therapy to try to help me.

The result is that I studied A LOT - about trauma, childhood trauma, emotions, emotional regulation, and how this affects our brains, bodies and behavior.

I’ve studied and served as a volunteer rape trauma counselor with a crisis center for 3 years, helping rape victims give their statements to police and go through the medical examination with the doctor. I’ve volunteered and lived in a safe house with trauma victims. For 4 years I worked full-time at a crisis center and I’ve done numerous basic counseling courses. I’m also a fully certified life coach, which I studied for a full year with New Insights Life Coach Training.

I’ve spent the past 15+ years learning how to help women break free from the results of big and small jolts in life!

Now I help women with developing and learning what I’ve found makes the most difference to break free from the results of big and small jolts in life:

  • Building strong boundaries.

  • Developing personalised emotional regulation strategies.

  • And filling in the gaps that we’ve lost because of what we’ve gone through - which often begins at “Who Am I? What Do I Want?”

“I’ve tried everything. How do I know this is going to work?”

If you’ve tried everything, it tells me that you’re more ready than ever. It also tells me that those other things have not really been able to give you and your daughter the hope, courage and firmness you’ve needed to pull you out of this hole. Emotions are complicated and there isn’t a magic-fix-it-all that will solve the problems. But, focusing in on validating emotions, talking about them, talking about boundaries and emotional regulation is a very healthy place to start. You’ll have much more clarity and a strategy going forward after these 4 weeks!

“How do I know I need better boundaries?”

That’s a great question! If many of these are true for you or your daughter, boundaries are very likely unclear or missing.

Do you have too few boundaries and struggle with setting boundaries:

  • Do you try hard to do what others want or need?

  • Do you answer “yes” when you want to say “no”?

  • Do you try to ignore how overwhelmed and tired you actually feel?

  • Do you often feel taken advantage of by people?

  • Do you often trust people too soon?

  • Do you often give too much in relationships?

  • Do you ever avoid people or relationships because you can’t say “no”?

Do you have over-the-top “boundaries” that you try to protect yourself with:

  • Do you often say “no” because it’s easier than saying “yes”?

  • Are you often rigid and inflexible?

  • Do you keep most people at a distance?

  • Do others experience you as insensitive, abrasive or scary?

  • Do you struggle to trust people?

  • Do you often end up with anger issues?

Do you avoid feelings to try to protect yourself:

  • Do you get swept away by your emotions?

  • Do you avoid difficult emotions?

  • Do difficult emotions overwhelm you?

  • Do you feel uncomfortable when your emotions are different to other people’s?

  • Do you do things to take your mind off of yourself?

  • Do you prefer to try be “invisible”?

  • Do your emotions sometimes feel paralyzing and even feel numbing or hysterical?

Do you over do things to avoid thinking about yourself:

  • Have you lost yourself in all the weird relationships, bad relationships, broken relationships, and too-intense relationships, maybe even abusive relationships?

  • Do you have a weird relationship with risk-taking and control, and you’re not sure why?

  • Do you move quickly in relationships?

  • Do you overextend yourself socially?

  • Do you struggle to set limits for yourself?

If you struggle with any points on these lists, I’m here to help you. I’ve been there and I’ve conquered many these and I’m here to help you do that too!

“I’m not ready to set goals, plan and all the things life coaches want me to do?”

Yes, I know! I was exactly the same. That’s why with me, we don’t get hung up on what you aren’t ready for yet or on what you’re not sure about. As we unpack emotions and boundary gaps, it’s going to take you and your daughter to the clarity you need to begin making plans, finding strategies and be able to find solutions, but only once you are feeling much more ready to do it!

“Can I change my mind and ask for a refund?”

Yes! The Coaching42ForYou ‘no questions asked guarantee’ means that if within the first 7 days from your first call with Lynda, you decide that it is not for you, we’ll refund you. There will be no refunds before your first call with Lynda. You may request a refund within the first 7 days only and requests must be submitted by 11:59pm 7 days from your first coaching call with Lynda. After that there will be no refunds.

“I’m SO busy. Will I even have the time to do this?”

This is a very good question! To get the most from this 4 week program, you will need to prioritize the calls and in-between calls you’ll need to take action! But, you don’t need to get worried about this because the changes I will be asking you to make are more about shifting your mindset than about adding tasks to your to-do list. And, I meet you and your daughter where you are at, and customize what you need to do in-between calls as much as possible to fit the time you have available.

“I don’t want to talk about my issues - will this still work for me?”

Yes! We work together on where you are at now, not on your past. However, if there are things in your life that are getting in the way of you living, thriving and having the emotional regulation that you want - then I will push you to help you to get what you want. But, this is not something to worry about, you decide what you want - I’m only there to help you get to what you want. So yes, absolutely!

“What actually happens when I click the I’m ready - let’s chat button?”

  • 1st you’ll get asked to prove you are human (usually you have to click on boats or bicycles to prove you aren’t a robot).

  • 2nd you’ll get taken to https://calendly.com/lyndawright to book a call with me.

  • 3rd you’ll connect with me on WhatsApp before your call and on WhatsApp you’ll get the link to the “getting to know you” form to fill out before our first call, so we can hit the ground running.

  • 4th we’ll have our 60 minute call, without your daughter, and chat about what you’re wanting, payment options (PayPal, EFT, etc.) and two of the questions from the “getting to know you” form.

  • 5th you’ll decide if you want to sign up, you’ll pay and we’ll begin our journey together!

“I can’t pay the full amount all at once - can I break down the payment?”

YES! There’s a 4 month payment plan option so you can spread out the payments. I don’t want you to miss out!

I’m ready to get help with our emotions.

Let’s get started!

p.s. you’ll get asked to prove you are human when you click

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I’m Lynda Wright, a certified life coach living in Cape Town, South Africa. I help fix unstable emotions so you can become the confident, capable and courageous person you are meant to be! Get in touch:

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