Have you tried SO hard to sort out emotions like anger, rage, regret, resentment, sadness, jealousy and bitterness, but stable emotions and feeling 'good enough' are just evading you?
Are you tired of feeling SH%!#@ from everything you’ve lost, everything you haven’t had, aren’t having, aren’t doing…?
Are you sick of feeling like this and pretending that everything is okay?
I promise you can get anger, rage and your interfering emotions fixed one step at a time!
MYTH #1 - There's no magic place, person, cure, amount of money, amount of success or fairytale to be found.
MYTH #2 - It's not people, situations, trials, circumstances, loss or bad luck.
MYTH #3 - You’re not crazy, out of control, bad, sick, beyond hope or helpless.
I don’t want you to spend as long searching for answers, so I want to start you off immediately with free training.
We’ve heard again and again about positive self-talk, but somehow it’s just not that simple. Watch my free video training to find out why this doesn’t work and how to talk back to your thoughts and your inner critic so that it really begins to work.
Why positive self-talk and affirmations aren't working for you
ONE big secret that can finally make all your effort to silence your inner critic begin to really work
THREE practical ways to apply this to make massive gains in silencing your inner critic, taming your self-talk and finally getting a handle on your thoughts
Here’s the basic 4 Plus 2 Format. You need to learn to accept 4 things - - I call them skills because you can learn every single one of them step-by-step. And there’s 2 that are optional, but recommended.
And with each skill you learn, you will gain more and more control of your rage and anger.
When you are searching for answers, you probably don’t even know what to call the problems - I certainly didn’t know I needed to find answers about how to conquer complex PTSD, disassociation, a lack of boundaries, emotional dysregulation, guilt, resentment, anger, rage, jealousy, irritation, and bitterness.
It sounds like such a complicated bunch of problems, but the answers weren’t complicated.
Over the past 25+ years I’ve learned that there are 4 things we need to accept to fix anger and rage. I call these skills because we can learn to accept and use these skills - the 4 that we need, plus the 2 that are optional.
This is why we can fix our anger and rage - because we can learn these skills:
Accept responsibility for your own healing - your self-regulation, triggers, choices, problems, and situations.
Accept control of your self-talk, thought stories, and stay in the present instead of looping your past.
Accept you need a plan for triggers and self-regulation and to practice it for it to work.
When __ occurs, I will __.
Accept your vulnerability - you are human and need to learn to use boundaries to function, same as everyone.
Plus the 2 things to accept that are optional, but recommended:
Accept help from God. Your faith is probably completely shattered. It's okay to question everything. It's okay to not believe God protects. God gets it. Find people who get it - hospital chaplains, women and child abuse crisis centers. The Bible too - Job, Lamentations. You didn't do anything to deserve this. God knows that.
Accept forgiveness. There is nothing worse than thinking about forgiveness, but there's also nothing more powerful than forgiveness. Forgiveness is not a feeling, it's a decision. And it changes something in the universe for you. It's THAT powerful. Ask God to forgive you, forgive yourself and others.
A few years after this photo was taken I was raped, then diagnosed with type 1 diabetes and after that for decades also had extreme malnutrition from undiagnosed celiac disease.
For 25+ years I struggled with a lot of anger and rage. Trying to function at both a physical and psychological disadvantage. I did go to many, many, many specialists - both psychological and physical - and none of them figured it out.
But back then experts didn't know that much about complex PTSD or Emotional Dysregulation. This arises from extended periods of extreme stress. It can be from racism, poverty, loss, abuse, witnessing violence, illness, and hospitalization in childhood, fear, constant change. Basically, you get the point - it's from periods of extreme stress.
The “WHY” of your anger doesn’t need to be crystal clear - what I’ve found will work to dramatically improve your life - even when you don’t know exactly where the anger is coming from!
Julia struggled with self-confidence and had a midlife crisis about where she was in life.
After a month of coaching Julia says she felt at ease and had clarity on direction in her life, with a short term plan to get going. She’d also started new hobbies and a self-care plan.
Natalie says she struggled with situational anxiety and depression due to work-related challenges before coaching. She also says she struggled to set appropriate boundaries with people in her life.
After the coaching program Natalie says she has used the value tools that she learned during coaching to make positive changes in her life, especially around self-care and setting boundaries. As a result she says, “I am better able to navigate challenges in my life and forge healthier relationships. First, I have set better boundaries in my relationships, which has defined the behaviour that I am not okay with in my relationships. This has subsequently led to healthier relationships (and in some instances, the end of toxic ones). I've also learned the importance of balance in my life, which includes self-care and the importance of saying ‘no’. This has considerably improved my mental health.”
I’m Lynda Wright, a certified life coach living in Cape Town, South Africa. I help fix unstable emotions so you can become the confident, capable and courageous person you are meant to be! Get in touch:
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