It’s not unusual. Which is good news - because that means there are ways to figure this out.
But, you do need help.
You’ve put up with so many conversations about what you want to do with your life. How important it is to have direction. You get it. But you have no idea what you want or what you want to be or even who you really are. You’re afraid to fail. Afraid to get it wrong. You’re interested in lot of things. It doesn’t really matter, anyway… right?
You and I both know that you need a bit of a goal. A bit of a plan. A bit of direction. But something keeps pulling you in so many directions and confusing you.
It’s like you pick one thing. Then change your mind. Then pick one thing. Then change your mind. Every. Single. Time.
So you let partners, bosses, friends, family, teachers advise you, influence you, basically tell you what you should do, study, aim for - and the story you keep telling yourself is, “this is just how it is for me - because I don’t know!?!?!”
Your inner critic keeps whispering in your ear “you aren’t good enough to do _______. You’re too [silly, broken, unattractive, dumb, or whatever] to get what you actually, really want or to spend the time trying to figure it out.”
I’ve broken the cycle of having no !@#$%%^ clue for myself and now I help other women do the same. Because, for me, it was a long road. Too long. With too many detours and false starts. It took me far too long to find out what on earth I was all about.
A huge part for me was fear and not believing in myself or even believing that I was good enough to do what I wanted to do.
I really don’t want that for you.
I’ve spent the past 15+ years learning how to help women break free from the results of big and small jolts in life!
So you don’t have to waste years like I did or get held back by fear like I did.
In my 1:1 coaching, I gently push you to find out what is really important to you (so you can follow it!), open your heart to boundaries and vulnerability (so you can take the risks you need to take to pursue what matters to you!), and plan your way forward (without confusion and emotions getting in the way!).
What we won’t do is focus on your past, your issues, trauma and your pain. Processing that is what therapy is for. Coaching is for actually helping you find solutions, make a plan, and THRIVE.
Values (what do you actually care about - and what don’t you care about!)
Fears (what is holding you back, what is keeping you from taking purposeful risks)
Self-care (you can’t push for something if you don’t care for you - and it’s something we have to learn because it’s so much more than a bathtub and a good book)
Boundaries (how to set them and maintain them)
Resilience (how to build it so you don’t crumble when pursuing what you want get’s tough - because it definitely will!)
Confidence (it’s more than self-esteem, it’s the ability to feel capable!)
“Before I worked with Lynda I was struggling with self-confidence. Since working together I’ve found clarity on direction in my life. I'm more at ease and even after just four weeks working with Lynda I have a short term plan. I’ve also started new hobbies and a self-care plan. Lynda guides with love and patience and takes you to a place where you can see things with much more clarity.”
An 8-week 1:1 coaching program to find out what is really important to you (so you can follow it!), open your heart to boundaries and vulnerability (so you can take the risks you need to take to pursue what matters to you!), and plan your way forward (without confusion and emotions getting in the way!).
Learn what is genuinely important to you.
Learn to manage your fears and thoughts and feelings so your inner critic doesn’t run the show, and so you don’t avoid things that are scary (vital for taking purposeful risks and having better relationships!).
Figure out what is currently supporting you in your self-care and eliminate what is not.
Figure out where the gaps in your boundaries are, and how to build healthy ones for what is most important to you in life.
Figure out where your personal joy, motivation and enthusiasm comes from so you can intentionally add more of those things into your life - and your plans for your future.
Give yourself permission to ask for help and build your circle of support (no one achieves a goal without some help!).
Learn to build faith in your capability to achieve goals - this is what confidence is all about!
A detailed “getting to know you” form to fill out before our first call, so we can hit the ground running
8, hour-long 1:1 calls with me (spread out for optimal integration, so you have time to practice what you learn with support) - valued at R5,600 ($400)
WhatsApp support between calls for the 8 weeks (up to 30 minutes of text support per week!) - valued at R2,240 ($160)
8 weekly thought-provoking jotters to download, print out and push yourself further - valued at R350 ($25)
PLUS! Bonus 1:1 call with me 1 or 2 months after you finish your 8th call to reinforce revelations, discuss your progress and obstacles, plus give you accountability for the path that you have chosen and want for your life - valued at R700 ($50)
PLUS! 7 Bonus guided meditations to shift mental blocks - valued at R1,400 ($100)
“Working with Lynda to clarify my values gave me the tools to make positive changes in my life, especially around self-care and setting boundaries. As a result, I am better able to navigate challenges in my life and forge healthier relationships. Since working with Lynda I have set better boundaries in my relationships, which has defined the behaviour that I am not okay with in my relationships. This has subsequently led to healthier relationships (and in some instances, the end of toxic ones). I've also learned the importance of balance in my life, which includes self-care and the importance of saying "no". This has considerably improved my mental health.”
You aren’t in a current crisis or mental health crisis.
You’ve ready to devote time and money to figuring out what you want.
You want a long-term solution and you’re prepared to work to get it.
You’re willing to make coaching calls a priority in your life.
You’re currently in a crisis or mental health crisis.
You want a quick-fix or someone who can “tell” you the answer.
You aren’t ready to look at the parts of yourself that make you feel uncomfortable.
You aren’t ready to devote time and money to figuring yourself out.
Because I live and work from Cape Town, South Africa - so it’s possible to offer this price!
Being affordable is very important to me. When I was in my early thirties I tried to hire a life coach and just could not find one that was even remotely affordable and therapy didn’t help me figure out the little things like boundary-setting, how to be content, how to calm my sometimes over-the-top emotions, or how to deal with the little challenges in life.
Because I’ve helped myself to figure myself out (and to learn to build boundaries and regulate chaotic emotions - and lots of other women)!
The result is that I studied A LOT - about trauma, childhood trauma, emotions, emotional regulation, and how this affects our brains, bodies and behavior. I get how weird we each are and I’ve figured out how to figure us out!
I’ve spent the past 15+ years learning how to help women break free from the results of big and small jolts in life!
Now I help women with developing and learning what I’ve found makes the most difference to break free from the results of big and small jolts in life:
Building strong boundaries.
Developing personalized emotional regulation strategies.
And filling in the gaps that we’ve lost because of what we’ve gone through - which often begins at “Who Am I? What Do I Want?”
If you’ve tried everything, it tells me that you’re more ready than ever. It also tells me that those other things have not really been able to give you the hope, courage and firmness you’ve needed to pull you out of this hole - and finally figure yourself out! Few other options focus in hard on boundaries and helping you to retrain yourself - and that is exactly what I do! That’s what actually helps you figure yourself out - building the boundaries and learning to regulate your emotions - so you can actually focus on what you want! That makes you capable of managing yourself.
That’s a great question! If many or all of these are true for you, you highly likely need to fill in gaps because of unclear or missing boundaries.
Do you have too few boundaries and struggle with setting boundaries:
Do you try hard to do what others want or need?
Do you answer “yes” when you want to say “no”?
Do you try to ignore how overwhelmed and tired you actually feel?
Do you often feel taken advantage of by people?
Do you often trust people too soon?
Do you often give too much in relationships?
Do you ever avoid people or relationships because you can’t say “no”?
Do you have over-the-top “boundaries” that you try to protect yourself with:
Do you often say “no” because it’s easier than saying “yes”?
Are you often rigid and inflexible?
Do you keep most people at a distance?
Do others experience you as insensitive, abrasive or scary?
Do you struggle to trust people?
Do you often end up with anger issues?
Do you avoid feelings to try to protect yourself:
Do you get swept away by your emotions?
Do you avoid difficult emotions?
Do difficult emotions overwhelm you?
Do you feel uncomfortable when your emotions are different to other people’s?
Do you do things to take your mind off of yourself?
Do you prefer to try be “invisible”?
Do your emotions sometimes feel paralyzing and even feel numbing or hysterical?
Do you over do things to avoid thinking about yourself:
Have you lost yourself in all the weird relationships, bad relationships, broken relationships, and too-intense relationships, maybe even abusive relationships?
Do you have a weird relationship with risk-taking and control, and you’re not sure why?
Do you move quickly in relationships?
Do you overextend yourself socially?
Do you struggle to set limits for yourself?
If you struggle with any points on these lists, I’m here to help you. I’ve been there and I’ve conquered many these and I’m here to help you do that too!
Yes, I know! I was exactly the same. That’s why with me, we don’t get hung up on what you aren’t ready for yet or on what you’re not sure about. As we find the pieces that need filling in, in your retraining and in your boundaries, it’s going to take you from the confused person who can feel there’s something missing to having all those gaps filled in. And that is going to give you the clarity that none of the other things you have tried before could give you.
So when you get to the end, we do look at plans and goals, but only once you are feeling much more whole and are ready to do it!
Yes! The Coaching42ForYou ‘no questions asked guarantee’ means that if within the first 7 days from your first call with Lynda, you decide that it is not for you, we’ll refund you. There will be no refunds before your first call with Lynda. You may request a refund within the first 7 days only and requests must be submitted by 11:59pm 7 days from your first coaching call with Lynda. After that there will be no refunds.
This is a very good question! To get the most from this 8 week program, you will need to prioritize the calls and in-between calls you’ll need to take action! But, you don’t need to get worried about this because the changes I will be asking you to make are more about shifting your mindset than about adding tasks to your to-do list. And, I meet you where you are at, and customize what you need to do in-between calls as much as possible to fit the time you have available.
Yes! We work together on where you are at now, not on your past. However, if there are things in your life that are getting in the way of you living, thriving and having everything that you want - then I will push you to help you to get what you want. But, this is not something to worry about, you decide what you want - I’m here to help you get to what you want. So yes, absolutely!
1st you’ll get asked to prove you are human (usually you have to click on boats or bicycles to prove you aren’t a robot).
2nd you’ll get taken to https://calendly.com/lyndawright to book a call with me.
3rd you’ll connect with me on WhatsApp before your call and on WhatsApp you’ll get the link to the “getting to know you” form to fill out before our first call, so we can hit the ground running.
4th we’ll have our 60 minute call and chat about what you’re wanting, payment options (PayPal, EFT, etc.) and two of the questions from the “getting to know you” form.
5th you’ll decide if you want to sign up, you’ll pay and we’ll begin our journey together!
YES! There’s a 13 month payment plan option so you can spread out the payments. I don’t want you to miss out!
I’m Lynda Wright, a certified life coach living in Cape Town, South Africa. I help fix unstable emotions so you can become the confident, capable and courageous person you are meant to be! Get in touch:
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